tuesdays with Morrie Part 2

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Tension of Opposites. Life is a series of pulls back and forth. U want to do something but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet u know it shouldn't. You take certain things for granted, even when u know you should never take anything for granted. A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubberband. And most of us lives in the middle.

So which side wins? Morrie answered, Love wins, Love always wins.

We do take a lot of things for granted.. And we do that consiously and sub consiously.. I asked myself, if one day, i will not be able to see and i become blind. Wat would become of me? Can i still be a teacher? Can i still see the beautiful sunset, the birds, the sky or the sea? Can i still experience the lit up faces of the children, my students, my family, my friends? If 1 day, i m crippled, will i be able to go to places where i want to go? Will i be able to go overseas and travel to the less travelled countries? If 1 day, i would just lose the use of any of the body parts that i always take for granted, what will happen to me? What will I do?? How will i react? Will i still be the strong positive person i m now?

I was reading the book on the bus these days.. However, i always stop before i reach my destination. Cuz i will always tear at some point in the book. Today, i saw the part till the journalist asked Morrie, what will he do if 1 day, he loses the use of his hands, and you could no longer talk, how would u communicate? Morrie replied that he will need the ppl to ask him yes and no qns.. Then he asked on silence, morrie's good fren, Maurie is now deaf, imagine morrie being unable to speak and maurie unable to hear. What would that be like?

Morrie's reply was "we will hold hands. And there'll be a lot of love passing between us. 35 yrs of friendship, u dun need speech or hearing to feel that." I asked myself, how many ppl's hand have i held? How many ppl's hearts have i touched? I won't have frenz of 35 yrs. Frenz are never counted in the no of yrs we know each other. It's the kind of vibes or whatever you call that, that makes us click and become frenz. I can know ppl from my primary school and yet, that person that i know may not even be as close as someone that i had known just for months!

I have held my mum's hand before she left me. The feeling of that never leaves my heart and will never be gone till the day i join her. However, what abt my family, my dad? How long have i not hold his hand? Since i was in primary school.. I tink.. That was a long time back.. Why is there a need to hold hands? I always thot holding hands as something very close and personal.. I dun hold hands with ppl.. not even close frenz.. I will feel very uncomfortable.. In fact, hand holding are for people who are very close to each other.. Parent and child, husband and wife, couples.. they share a bonding between each other.. That's why they hold hands, isn't it?? But do the couples in this present age know why they hold hands??

There's a particular time when Morrie went into class, he sat there without talking for a cool 15 mins.. Everyone in the class became very embarrassed by the deep silence. Some became agitated and think when is he gg to say something? some squirm and kept looking at the watches, some looked out of the window trying to be above it all.. The main topic he was on was abt the effect of silence on human relations. Y r we embarrassed by silence? wat comfort do we find in all the noise? If i were in a situation like this, i would be uncomfortable too.. BUt now, i tink, being silent with another party or a group is ok.. It's alright.. Let the unsaid feelings flow to the other party.. That sometimes, might be more effective than talking.. Next time i would just let the silence fall and see wat happens.. haha..